We tend to be more aware of emotions when our efforts in achieving the goals inhibited (anger, sadness, frustration, disappointment, etc.). Or vice versa if our goal is achieved. The most important is how to respond emotion.
When explored further emotion will become increasingly obvious role if we can remember the following:
- Almost all the joys and sorrows of life is associated with emotions
- Often human behavior generated by the emotional power (although some expressed the view many behaviors based on the rationale and objective)
- Interpersonal conflict often generated because of protrusion of emotions (pride, anger, jealousy, frustration, etc.)
- Private meetings between such emotions often caused mercy, affection, attraction, etc…
Considering these things it is very important for individuals to respond to emotions appropriately. In other words, how a person overcomes the emotional problems will be able to enrich his life insights, but can also troubling her own life. There are two choices of action in responding to your emotions. Both have very different effects for you. Therefore, how to respond to these emotions can be differentiated into “Healthy Response” and “Response not healthy”.
Healthy Response
- Be aware of emotions. You turned away briefly from the argument (go out of the room) and watched a good variety of emotional you are feeling. Then ask yourself: what I feel? Shame (because your friend is more correct / better), or fear (she is smarter and more and more angry), feel better (because you feel won a few things from your friends, and often he admitted)? Or are there any other emotions that arise?
- Acknowledge your emotions. You consciously notice your emotions that occur at that time so that you know whether it’s emotion. Figure out how strong emotion.
- Investigate the emotion! If you really want to know a lot about yourself, ask why anger occurs, how it went in you and where it comes from. Trace the origin of emotions. Maybe you can unleash the full relevance today, but you probably will find such a low self-esteem that you’d never admit its existence.
- Express your emotions. What the course. Say: Let’s stop for a moment, I feel too tense; lest I would say the things that really do not want to say. In this case is important not to accuse or make informed judgments in these feelings to your friends. You know for sure is not your friend is wrong to talk. But in you is not something wrong.
- Integrate emotion. After listening to your emotions, after asking and revealing, now let common sense to assess what you should do. Say for example: let’s start again, apparently I was too insistent, so can not listen well. I want to hear your excuse anymore. Or: you do not mind if we just end this debate. Right now I feel easily offended to talk about serious things.
Unhealthy Response
- 1. Do not mind the emotional reaction! Better to say to yourself: I was not nervous at all, if you are sweating, say that the temperature of hot air in the room. Bury it deep feelings and do not mind. Feel the tension of emotion in a scientific discussion is not appropriate for you an intellectual.
- Denying the existence of emotion. Tell yourself and others; I’m not angry, no! Emotion is more easily broken by concentrating on the road course debate. Do not let the attention be diverted by emotion! Drink the medicine, if necessary. Because usually will occur as ulcer disease, gout, high blood pressure, even heart attacks.
- Search continues repellent materials. People with ideas as good as you, soon will be a frontal attack. This is the moment to win or lose. You need to slow the flow of words. You should not be stuttering, but you can not even stop to talk. Since your friend can bring solid evidence and you will lose. Focus on the debate and do not slack to continue to strangle him.
- If you want to blind and require a split, blame him. Mention some personal flaw. For example, say: not possible to discuss this calmly with you. You are too fierce. You never hear the opinions of others (such equalize it is also very wearing). You think you are God, what!
- Since no claim to have emotion, you do not bother trying to investigate the reactions of the emotions. Yet emotions are repressed need a way out. So just go with the angry words, then take two aspirin and still remember how dumb your friends had.
From both of the above responses can be clearly seen the consequences that will arise in the lives of individuals from how to respond emotionally. As a person who is required to be healthy adults and of course you already know the response which would you choose. And starting today you can begin to live healthier and happier in response to emotions.